Sunday, November 20, 2005

Status of working women in society

God made two images and mounted them on a stone he named one man and the other one a woman but the when someone asked him how he would distinguish between them all he did was he planted a drop of tear below her eye…
I mean did God already decide the fate of a woman that she would bear all the consequences and then in retaliation just cry her heart out… like it is the only way of cleansing her soul!
Well the status of a woman since then has not changed at all. So what if she chooses to work and help the family by contributing financially? It certainly does not relieve her of her household chores! The catch here is, it is her decision! So she has to pay a price…
Women's liberation has brought about changes they say but I ask changes in what ways? I mean is slogging inside and outside the house liberation? Or is liberation doing additional work because you've stayed out during the day or you stay up whole night pleasing your husband… he can't do without you remember? Questions like these are controversial but truth always hurts! I have hardly heard anyone proudly saying" my wife contributes equal money and I contribute equally in the household activities". The day men say these lines that will be true liberation and not otherwise.
Earlier women were not allowed to work and hence she worked inside the four walls of the house but now that she has been allowed to work why should she work double her capacity? There has been hence no change in the workload and the pressure she has from the house or outside by her boss.
Facts and figures prove beyond doubt that two thirds of the men do not participate in the household activities at all like they were made only to get money for the house. And among those who do help it ranges from six to eleven hours a week. And imagine her state if she has children the workload is almost tripled! And then there are no specific hours she chose to work so she can also choose to sacrifice on hours of sleep or even that one or two hours she needs for herself! If you thought that the over the years the situation has changes you are highly mistaken because it has just become the opposite. Now because of mounting pressures of finishing work on time and also juggling with her children's studies because they have testes almost every second day she has also cook, clean, dust and satisfy her husband everyday because he loves her remember?

And then the eternal fear also rests, if she does not satisfy him then he will immediately start looking for pleasures outside!
What can a woman do? How does her being a woman exempt her from work? Why can't men understand? All she wants is a little bit of co-operation and understanding. She is not asking the man to quit his job but all she asks if she ever does is help her out in the chores and also make her life a little less stressful!
I certainly don't think that this is asking for too much women have never shirked responsibility but they have always managed to balance both the sides. The only thing which remains unsaid but left to us to be understood is that she is a human being first and not a woman!

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

i could not agree more with u...well said...woman are taken for granted...and unless woman come down forcibly on men, it is quite difficult

Rim said...

ithu konja over pa...some points - agreed...but think of us poor men also...:D

Incognito said...

some men arch, buy washing machine/dish washer or micro-ovens or those tsn products as presents for women's birthdays. i've seen it happen. how chauvinistic. Arch , did u read what our very own sudhish wrote on the recent "he says, she says". The link is :: http://hesaysshesayscolumn.blogspot.com/2005/11/episode-9-women-have-it-easy.html
Do read it and let me know ur opinion.

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Camphor said...

You know, that would be why when you meet a man who is a man, and actually is considerate, you feel a little releived. Releived? Isn't that something that you should be able to count on. Ah well, the world is not lost. Yet.

the Monk said...

well, i dunno what to say...don't wanna give fundas...i agree that many mena re like that...but i think it is important to remember that not all are like that...

Anonymous said...

high time u updated ur blog ..dont u think ?

Niranjan said...

If U R true Archana, I am Ur Niranjan, Pl come & meet me, becaue I am fond of U

Anonymous said...

hey arch i quite agree with what u say but i guess we only seem to talk about these issues... its still a male dominated world. According to me, change is imperative but seems to be a distant dream even in today's world...

Anonymous said...

Who is true Archana that we have to confirm from Railway Administration and from CBI department of India.